Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man. Colossians 4:6 KJV In love and relationships, words are so powerful because they determine the healthy or unhealthy state of the relationship. Words or communication is the life or the blood of every level of relationship. God is so interested is us as an individual to have healthy relationship with the people surround us.  Either it's a platonic or romantic relationship, God is so concerned about the nature or kind of words we use to asking question and in answering question.  As believers, the prove of your personal relationship with the Lord is in how good you are in relating with the people around you. Anger is not an excuse. Like our text for this post, the bibles stated that LET YOUR WORDS BE ALWAYS WITH GRACE. My brothers and sisters, how gracious are you words? Is it only gracious when you are happy and abusive when you are angry or being off...

In love and relationship, forgiveness and reconciliation is the major strength. I want to set a balance to this issue of forgiveness because; many people are using scriptures as an excuse for justifying their weaknesses. God spoke about the offender and the offended in the bible. My assignment in this post is to set a balance between the offender and the offended. Please, read carefully! Mr. & Miss. Offended. I know what it hurts and I have also suffered in some percentage the pain of people hurting me. Being offended is not some thing to expect but some times in love and relationship, you will get it from people unexpected. I want you to remember how much God has loved and forgiven you for your mistakes and faults. You need to understand the abundance of the love and the forgiving Grace of the Lord upon your life. This is the first thing I want you to recognize. God loves you and He has forgiven you of any mistake or faults in your life. It’s important you realize that God ...

We live in a society where every people are seeking for security. Security is a great asset to any thing that is worth protecting. Your heart and relationship is not an exemption of this need (security). Lack of security or the uncertainty has increased fear among youths and teenagers. Love and Relationship has now become a world of threat. This is an error that must be corrected.  There is a way to fire prove your heart and relationship and this is what this post is set to reveal to you. The fire in this contest is heartbreak. Heartbreak happens because people don’t know how to fire prove their relationship. Conflicts are the not major cause of heartbreak in relationships. The major cause of heartbreak in relationship is lack of fire prove. They have not set up a security system to preserve their heart and relationship. No body can fire prove your heart and relationship; you are the only one responsible for it. One thing I have realized is this; your inabilities to fire prov...

Heartbreak is not your enemy. Men are not wicked and ladies are not heartless. We suffer daily only because we refuse to sit, think, and learn. In the world of love and relationship, if you don’t learn how to earn your faults and mistakes, you will never escape the world of heartbreak. Heartbreak is the discipline reserved for people who hates to learn and accept correction. The prison is not the problem of law breakers. The major problem of law breakers is their unwillingness to learn from their mistakes, and become a better person. That’s the same situation when it comes to heartbreak.  Heartbreak is one of the most painful but necessary experience needed for youths to become more responsible, and accountable. Experiencing heartbreak does not imply you are immature; you becoming isolated, unforgiving, and bitter after heartbreak means you are immature.  Youths and even teenagers hates heartbreak but that is wrong. If you are not a thief, will you be scared of the p...

God has a plan and a desire for us as individual. His plan is for us to love and be loved in return. Although a lot of people don’t get to enjoy this plan, there is still an opportunity for you to begin to enjoy Gods desire. This post is all about you understanding from Gods perspective on this question “can we date?” Can we Date? Is a question, an invitation a man places before a lady for the purpose of agreement or disapproval for a relationship. Taking Amos 3:3 as the case study, you will agree with me that in every walking, there must be a defined agreement. What makes an agreement sincerely is when the two people involved, agreed willingly without any form of pressure or manipulation. This is Gods concept about a man asking a lady out for a date. Can we date, is a request a man ought to present to any lady he has an interest in. No lady is bond by your request. Love is freedom to choose and the power to say yes or no. The lady has the freedom to say yes or no to any requ...

I was so shocked when the Holy Spirit first whispered this instruction to me. What? Like seriously? Are you joking? But to my surprise, the Holy Spirit gave me an understanding that is a major solution to the frustration among the married people. If you are single and reading this, I am so sure this will help your dating and courtship process. According to the first man (Adam - Genesis 2:24) - God’s instruction was not focused on them becoming married. The major focus of God for them was them becoming “ONE flesh.” This is the misconception among youths. There is nothing wrong with you desiring to be married but there is every thing wrong when, all your investment in the relationship is just to be married. Marriage is not the major goal, marriage or being married ought to be an added bonus and not an achievement. There is some thing that is stronger and of necessity that being married. If you don’t have this and you get married, you will begin to endure the marriage instead of you...

The parable of the ten virgins is our case study; you will agree with me that being perfect or even being a virgin  is not an assurance that your love life or relationship will succeed. In Gods kingdom, there are principles you must learn to embrace and one out of the principles holds the greatest influence; TIME! Every friendship and relationship has a destination. Some friendship and relationships will succeed and some of the friendship or relationships will fail. Failure is predictable and success is predictable. The failure or success in every friendship or relationship is notable in the quality of the discovery and preparation of the individual. Eccl 3:1 states clearly that, there is TIME for every thing and a purpose for every activity under the surface of the earth. TIME plays a big role in the success or failure of the relationship we experience as an individual. Time is like a phase and in every phase (time) there are things you ought to do. This reminds me of a ...