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Date Someone Who Values Your Character and Calling

There is a dangerous kind of relationship where one person falls in love with the other person's appearance, personality, body, social status, or usefulness but has little interest in the person's assignment.

Do not become someone's admiration while losing your calling.

Before dating, understand that God gave you something to steward. “As every man hath received the gift, even so minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.” 1 Peter 4:10. Your gifts are not decorations. Your life is a stewardship.

So when someone enters your life, observe what they do with your purpose. Do they respect your convictions? Do they encourage your development? Can they celebrate your progress without becoming threatened? Can they recognize that your assignment belongs first to God? Can you do the same for them?

A woman should not have to become less purposeful to make a man feel like a man. A man should not have to abandon his responsibility and assignment to prove that he loves a woman. In Christ, healthy masculine and feminine expression should not compete for control. Both should be reconciled to God's original intention and expressed through love, service, responsibility, wisdom, and obedience to Christ.

The question is not simply, “Does this person love me?” Ask the deeper question: “Does this relationship help both of us become more faithful to God?” If the relationship continually demands that one person abandon their identity, convictions, gifts, or assignment, it is not merely a relationship problem. It may be a purpose problem.

Hope Expression Values You 
Apostle Prince Victor Matthew 

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