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Date Someone Who Can Have Hard Conversations



Purpose will eventually expose incompatibility. Two people can have chemistry and still lack the maturity required to build together. At some point, you will need to discuss boundaries, money, family expectations, sexual purity, ministry, career, children, conflict, responsibilities, and personal weaknesses. If difficult conversations always produce anger, silence, manipulation, threats, or withdrawal, pay attention.

Jesus did not avoid difficult conversations. He confronted Peter, corrected His disciples, challenged religious hypocrisy, and spoke truth even when truth was uncomfortable. “Faithful are the wounds of a friend.” Proverbs 27:6.

Your assignment in Christ requires you to become a person who can receive correction and communicate truth with love. Dating should expose opportunities for growth rather than become a place where both people constantly protect their egos. Ask yourself, “Can I tell this person that something is wrong without becoming afraid of their reaction?” Also ask, “Can I receive correction from this person without becoming defensive?”

A relationship that cannot survive an honest conversation will struggle under the weight of real responsibility. Marriage does not remove difficult conversations. Ministry does not remove them. Parenting does not remove them. Life does not remove them. Maturity teaches you how to navigate them.

Therefore, do not simply look for someone who makes you laugh. Look for someone who can reason with you. Look for someone who can listen. Look for someone who can disagree without disrespect. Look for someone who can pursue resolution rather than victory. You are not merely choosing someone to date. You are discerning whether this person can walk responsibly alongside the purpose God is developing in both of you.

Hope Expression Values You 
Apostle Prince Victor Matthew 

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