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Date Someone Whose Present Supports Your Future

Do not become so fascinated by someone's potential that you ignore their present.

Potential can inspire you, but character should convince you.

God called Abraham before Abraham saw the complete manifestation of the promise. Yet Abraham had to walk with God through process. Your future spouse should not merely speak about where they want to go. You should be able to observe evidence that they are walking in the right direction.

Proverbs 24:27 says, “Prepare thy work without, and make it fit for thyself in the field; and afterwards build thine house.” There is wisdom in preparation before construction.

This principle matters in dating. Before building a household, learn how the person handles responsibility. Before discussing marriage, observe how they manage their present life. Before trusting them with your future, examine whether they are faithfully managing what they currently have.

Are they developing their gifts? Are they pursuing their assignment? Are they responsible with money? Are they learning? Are they growing spiritually? Are they healing from past wounds? Are they willing to work? Are they taking responsibility for their decisions?

Your future should not constantly be sacrificed to rescue someone from a present they refuse to take responsibility for. Love can support someone's growth, but love cannot substitute for personal responsibility.

Date someone who is becoming. Not someone who claims they will become. There is a difference. You do not need a finished person. You need someone who is genuinely walking with Jesus and intentionally cooperating with the process of becoming who God has called them to be.

Hope Expression Values You 
Apostle Prince Victor Matthew 

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