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Date Someone Whose Apology Comes With Change

One of the greatest mistakes people make while dating is falling in love with apologies instead of observing transformation.

“I am sorry” can be sincere, but sincerity must eventually produce responsibility. Repentance is not merely feeling bad about what happened. It involves a change of direction. John the Baptist said, “Bring forth therefore fruits meet for repentance.” Matthew 3:8.

Your purpose requires character because whatever God has entrusted to you will eventually be affected by the person you become. If you are constantly excusing destructive behavior in the name of love, you may be protecting the relationship while damaging the person God is calling you to become.

Watch what happens after the apology.

Does the person seek understanding? Do they accept responsibility? Do they make practical changes? Do they seek counsel when necessary? Do they become more self controlled? Do they respect the boundary you established? Or do they simply become emotional until you forgive them and then repeat the same behavior?

You also need to examine yourself. Are you genuinely changing when you are corrected? Are you willing to become more Christlike because someone lovingly pointed out a weakness? Dating should not become a courtroom where two people defend themselves. It should become an environment where two people are learning maturity.

Grace is powerful, but grace is not permission for repeated destruction. Romans 2:4 teaches that God's goodness leads us to repentance. If Christ is at the center, correction should produce growth. Date someone who is not only capable of saying sorry but committed to becoming better.


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Apostle Prince Victor Matthew 

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