In love and relationship, forgiveness and reconciliation is the major strength. I want to set a balance to this issue of forgiveness because; many people are using scriptures as an excuse for justifying their weaknesses. God spoke about the offender and the offended in the bible. My assignment in this post is to set a balance between the offender and the offended. Please, read carefully!
Mr. & Miss. Offended.
I know what it hurts and I have also suffered in some percentage the pain of people hurting me. Being offended is not some thing to expect but some times in love and relationship, you will get it from people unexpected. I want you to remember how much God has loved and forgiven you for your mistakes and faults. You need to understand the abundance of the love and the forgiving Grace of the Lord upon your life. This is the first thing I want you to recognize. God loves you and He has forgiven you of any mistake or faults in your life.
It’s important you realize that God is not thinking of forgiving you your faults and mistakes. God has forgiven you and also spread ahead of you forgiveness. This is what I call advance forgiveness. God has not only forgiven the present and past faults, He has advance forgiveness for you. The reason God has done this is because of His plan and love for your life. There is some thing God wants to achieve in your life before you made the mistake. Realize the forgiving nature of God and accept Gods forgiveness. In the same light, you must also extend to other people, the forgiving Grace of God.
Love and forgive people in the same measure God has loved and forgiven you. Are you the offended? Learn to understand that forgiving the lady or man is actual a gift of love you are rendering your self. You are not doing any body a favour by forgiving them. You are doing your self a favour instead. Jesus commandment us to forgive those that despitefully use and abuse you. This is an instruction from Jesus; it’s not an option or suggestion you can choose to pick or ignore.
Mr. & Miss. Offender
Hmmm… Don’t get excited yet because this very instruction from Jesus about people forgiving those that hurt them not mean it’s an excuse for you to continue hurting people as you please. In Luke 17: 1 – 2, Jesus stated that offence will surely come but curse is the one through whom the offences come! It were better for him/her that a millstone were hanged about his/her neck and be cast into sea than that he/she should offend one of these little ones.
I hope you read that with understanding; there is a curse on any one that offend some one. These are the very words of Jesus Christ. I believe its time for every one to begin to deal with their individual weaknesses instead of laying the burden of their weakness for other to keep bearing for them. You are so rude to people yet you are the first to complain that people don’t like associating with you. How do you expect them to keep associating with you when you are always rude to them? Instead of blaming people; learn to be polite and people will come around you. People are not your problem or enemy. You are the very enemy of your self. Solve your self; deal with your own short comings and every thing you are complaining about people will solve itself naturally. But as long as you ignore dealing with your own short comings with the word of God, and you keep blaming people for not tolerating you; you will never become that man or woman God has created you to be.
You don’t have the strength to absorb pain yet you cause people pain, and also complain the same people for reacting to the pain you are causing them. The fact that Jesus said we should forgive one another does not mean you should stop making effort to improve your short coming. You don’t like people shouting at you yet you shout at people. You don’t like people gossiping about you yet you gossip about other people. You always like people giving you gifts but you are so stingy. And when people complain about the pain you are causing them, you use forgive me as an excuse. Let me ask you a question; how long will people keep forgiving you on a particular issue? For the past six months, you keep repeating an act that is hurting people and when they complain, your excuse is FORGIVE ME. The forgiveness people have given you in the past; did you use it to improve your self?
Forgiveness is people trusting you again with the expectation that you will improve and become a better person. But when you now use the forgiveness as a freedom for carelessness and being irresponsible about your life, thoughts and attitude; you have insulted the trust these people have offered you through forgiveness. It takes trust for people to forgive you when you hurt them so; use their trust in you to improve your self. STOP ASKING FOR MORE FORGIVENESS AND EMBRACE BEING RESPONSIBLE ABOUT YOUR LIFE, ATTITUDE, MIND-SET AND MANNER OF APPROACH. Instead of complaining about people’s reaction towards you maybe it’s time you begin to give more attention, to what you are actually doing to people. For every reaction you get from people, there is some thing you have said or done that have provoked their reaction. Stop playing being innocent, these people are not mad or senseless. They can’t just dislike you suddenly without your involvement. It might be consciously or unconsciously but you are fully responsible for how people treat you, for how people want to be around you and for how people are presently avoiding you now.
Forgiveness is not excuse; it’s time to improve your life, character, and how you speak to people through God’s Word.
Remember to study John 15:5 and Matthew 11:28-30
Jesus is your living HOPE.
Thanks.
Prince Victor Matthew.
Mr. & Miss. Offended.
I know what it hurts and I have also suffered in some percentage the pain of people hurting me. Being offended is not some thing to expect but some times in love and relationship, you will get it from people unexpected. I want you to remember how much God has loved and forgiven you for your mistakes and faults. You need to understand the abundance of the love and the forgiving Grace of the Lord upon your life. This is the first thing I want you to recognize. God loves you and He has forgiven you of any mistake or faults in your life.
It’s important you realize that God is not thinking of forgiving you your faults and mistakes. God has forgiven you and also spread ahead of you forgiveness. This is what I call advance forgiveness. God has not only forgiven the present and past faults, He has advance forgiveness for you. The reason God has done this is because of His plan and love for your life. There is some thing God wants to achieve in your life before you made the mistake. Realize the forgiving nature of God and accept Gods forgiveness. In the same light, you must also extend to other people, the forgiving Grace of God.
Love and forgive people in the same measure God has loved and forgiven you. Are you the offended? Learn to understand that forgiving the lady or man is actual a gift of love you are rendering your self. You are not doing any body a favour by forgiving them. You are doing your self a favour instead. Jesus commandment us to forgive those that despitefully use and abuse you. This is an instruction from Jesus; it’s not an option or suggestion you can choose to pick or ignore.
Mr. & Miss. Offender
Hmmm… Don’t get excited yet because this very instruction from Jesus about people forgiving those that hurt them not mean it’s an excuse for you to continue hurting people as you please. In Luke 17: 1 – 2, Jesus stated that offence will surely come but curse is the one through whom the offences come! It were better for him/her that a millstone were hanged about his/her neck and be cast into sea than that he/she should offend one of these little ones.
I hope you read that with understanding; there is a curse on any one that offend some one. These are the very words of Jesus Christ. I believe its time for every one to begin to deal with their individual weaknesses instead of laying the burden of their weakness for other to keep bearing for them. You are so rude to people yet you are the first to complain that people don’t like associating with you. How do you expect them to keep associating with you when you are always rude to them? Instead of blaming people; learn to be polite and people will come around you. People are not your problem or enemy. You are the very enemy of your self. Solve your self; deal with your own short comings and every thing you are complaining about people will solve itself naturally. But as long as you ignore dealing with your own short comings with the word of God, and you keep blaming people for not tolerating you; you will never become that man or woman God has created you to be.
You don’t have the strength to absorb pain yet you cause people pain, and also complain the same people for reacting to the pain you are causing them. The fact that Jesus said we should forgive one another does not mean you should stop making effort to improve your short coming. You don’t like people shouting at you yet you shout at people. You don’t like people gossiping about you yet you gossip about other people. You always like people giving you gifts but you are so stingy. And when people complain about the pain you are causing them, you use forgive me as an excuse. Let me ask you a question; how long will people keep forgiving you on a particular issue? For the past six months, you keep repeating an act that is hurting people and when they complain, your excuse is FORGIVE ME. The forgiveness people have given you in the past; did you use it to improve your self?
Forgiveness is people trusting you again with the expectation that you will improve and become a better person. But when you now use the forgiveness as a freedom for carelessness and being irresponsible about your life, thoughts and attitude; you have insulted the trust these people have offered you through forgiveness. It takes trust for people to forgive you when you hurt them so; use their trust in you to improve your self. STOP ASKING FOR MORE FORGIVENESS AND EMBRACE BEING RESPONSIBLE ABOUT YOUR LIFE, ATTITUDE, MIND-SET AND MANNER OF APPROACH. Instead of complaining about people’s reaction towards you maybe it’s time you begin to give more attention, to what you are actually doing to people. For every reaction you get from people, there is some thing you have said or done that have provoked their reaction. Stop playing being innocent, these people are not mad or senseless. They can’t just dislike you suddenly without your involvement. It might be consciously or unconsciously but you are fully responsible for how people treat you, for how people want to be around you and for how people are presently avoiding you now.
Forgiveness is not excuse; it’s time to improve your life, character, and how you speak to people through God’s Word.
Remember to study John 15:5 and Matthew 11:28-30
Jesus is your living HOPE.
Thanks.
Prince Victor Matthew.
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