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Date Someone Who Makes You Feel Safe to Be Honest

Before you ask whether someone is right for you, ask whether you are becoming the person God created you to be. Your identity must not be negotiated at the altar of romance. You were created in Christ with purpose, gifts, convictions, and an assignment that existed before you met the person you are considering dating. A healthy relationship should give you room to become more honest about who you are in Christ, not pressure you to create a version of yourself that will be easier for someone else to love.

Genesis 1:27 reminds us that God created humanity in His image. Your worth therefore did not begin when someone became attracted to you. You do not need a relationship to validate your existence, and you should not surrender your convictions simply to keep someone's affection. Emotional safety becomes important because purpose requires honesty. Can you tell this person what you genuinely believe? Can you admit where you are growing? Can you talk about your fears without pretending to be stronger than you are?

Sometimes people become dishonest in relationships because they are afraid that the truth will make them lose the person. But if you must abandon truth to maintain affection, what exactly are you preserving? You should be able to say, “This is who I am, this is what God is working in me, this is what I am called to do, and this is where I am still growing.” The right person may challenge you, but they should not require you to become false.

Before dating, become acquainted with yourself in Christ. While dating, continue that journey. Do not allow romance to become your new identity, because the person who forgets their assignment while pursuing a relationship may eventually resent the relationship for the very sacrifice they willingly made. Your relationship should have space for two people who are becoming whole in Christ, not two incomplete people demanding that each other become their entire world.

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Apostle Prince Victor Matthew 


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