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Date Someone Who Loves You Through Their Actions

Love becomes visible when it becomes responsibility. It is easy to say, “I love you.” It is much harder to consistently demonstrate patience, sacrifice, honesty, protection, respect, accountability, forgiveness, and service. That is why your discernment should never depend entirely on what someone says about their feelings.

John wrote, “Let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.” 1 John 3:18.

Your assignment requires you to become a person of substance. The person you date should be interested in substance too. Watch what they consistently do. Do they keep their word? Do they show up? Do they respect your time? Do they honor your boundaries? Do they serve others? Do they take responsibility? Do they encourage your growth?

And ask yourself an uncomfortable question: If this person's actions never changed from what I am seeing today, would I still want this relationship five years from now?

That question can save you from falling in love with an imagined future.

Do not build a relationship around promises that have no evidence. At the same time, do not demand perfection from someone who is genuinely growing. Look for consistency, humility, responsibility, and the fruit of Christ being formed in their life.

The purpose of dating is not to lose yourself in another person. It is to discern whether two people who belong to Christ can walk together without abandoning the assignments God has entrusted to them. “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness.” Matthew 6:33. When Jesus remains first, love can find its proper place. You can love again, trust again, dream again, and build again without making romance your god.

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