Love Is Not Enough

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Using Eccl 3:1 as a case study, you will agree with me that there is a purpose for every activity (love) under the sun. The greatest frustration in life is you being in possession of a thing and yet don’t know or understand its purpose. Whenever I visit social media, I see different adverts for love and relationships but, what many people are not thinking is this; why do I need love and what will I use love to do what I gain love?

Love is not a trophy. LOVE IS A WEAPON/TOOL. Yes! Love is a tool and if you don’t understand this concept, you will always get hurt in your love life blaming people, and blaming love without the knowledge that you are the one hurting yourself. Love and relationship is not for lazy people because love is a whole lot of responsibility and work. 

The mindset of love as a trophy is what is making ladies to play hard to get before accepting a proposal. Ladies have being taught they are trophy and love is trophy so if there is no chasing, there is no love or the man does not value them or deserve them. THIS IS THE MAJOR REASON FOR ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP. This error must stop today. Ladies! You are not a trophy and love is not a trophy to be chased and conquered. LOVE IS A WEAPON/TOOL.

Having this mindset of love as a weapon/tool, you must understand that where there is a weapon/tool, there is work to be done. Going back to the Garden of Eden, you will agree with me that the only reason why God made love, and Eve available for Adam was because, work was on ground. Understanding what God has called you to do in life as a man is a clear picture of the kind of lady you can marry and the one you must not marry. Understanding what God has called you to do as a lady will determine the kind of man you can marry and the man you must not marry.

So, before you start thinking of love, the first question to ask God is – what is my assignment in this generation? You must understand your work (assignment) if, you really want to be nurtured and growing in love. GOD LOVES YOU BECAUSE OF THE WORK HE HAS CREATED YOU TO DO HERE ON HERE. YOU ARE MEANT TO LOVE YOUR FUTURE SPOUSE THROUGH THE PATTERN OF WHAT GOD HAS CALLED YOU TO DO. YOU ARE MEANT TO BE LOVED IN RETURN THROUGH THE PATTERN OF WHAT GOD HAS CALLED YOU TO DO. SO, IF WHAT GOD HAS CALLED YOU TO DO IS NOT AGREEMENT WITH WHAT GOD HAS CALLED HER TO DO, THERE WILL BE UNSOLVABLE CONFLICT. 

LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH – what has God called you to do? You love him or you love her – I sincerely do understand you but, what are you called to do in life, and how does loving this person contribute to this assignment or work? Healthy relationships are fuel that keeps what God has called you to do on a progressive motion. Every body can not love and you must not accept every love people throw at you. SOME KIND OF LOVE ARE POISON TO WHAT GOD HAS CALLED YOU TO DO. Any thing people offer you in the name of LOVE and does not support or assist what God has called you t o do is a POISON. It may be nice, it may be expensive, it may be sincere, it may be sacrificial, and it might even be truthful BUT, does it contribute to what God has called you to do?

Love is not enough; purpose discovery is needed. If you don’t know who you are according to the Truth (Gods word), how will you know who you are meant to love? Birds of the same feathers will always flock together. How much knowledge and understanding do you have about your purpose, your vision, your values, your priorities, your talent, and your assignment? How rooted are you in Gods word? How has Gods word defined every aspect of your life? 

Love is not enough; Godly character is needed. You can’t be disrespecting people or being rude to them and claim you love them. If you love them, you won’t lie to them, you won’t be domineering over them. You won’t test and toil with their feelings. You won’t use your anger as a weapon to control them. How polite are you? Do other people’s achievements make you insecure? Do you gossip and what’s you attitude when there is lack of money? If every body’s attitude are like yours, will this world be a better place or this world will be worst?

Love is not enough; vision is needed. Where is God taking you to in life and is this relationship feeding that need? You can’t just live any how without a direction. Life has to be definite, and pattern is a necessity. Your God’s given vision must set the pace for any thing you want to do in life, love, and relationship. 

Love is not enough; intelligence is needed. How creative are you in life and in what God has called you to do? How creative are you in the way you dress, talk, and in the way you coordinate your self? Do you have any creative ideas to contribute to other people’s life? What do you have to offer intellectually? How much time do you invest in a constant self development of your intellectual capacity? Do you have a short term goal? Do you have a long term goal?  Hmmm…

Love is not enough; invest in a constant self development. The quality of your life as an individual will determine the quality of the relationship you can cultivate with other people.

Remember this, John 15:5 and Matthew 11:28-29

There is still HOPE for you in Christ Jesus.

Love is not enough!

Watch out for my next post "Feelings is not Enough."

Thanks.

Yours Sincerely,

Prince Victor Matthew
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