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BALANCE; Escape From Abusive Relationship - Part 2

At this point, you must agree that;
No body knows it all.
No body has it all.
No body has seen it all.

This is the place where complimentary comes to play. The strength of your weakness lives in your love mate and strength of your love mate weakness lies in you.

In complimentary, you must come to the understanding that investment is a necessity. Any Godly relationship, friendship or teamwork is a place where both parties are investing complimentary to make the relationship or friendship work.

It is not about you making your love mate lazy by doing all things they were designed to do. It is the ability to support your love mate effort as you allow them to shoulder their own responsibility – this is a designed from God to make each other matured. It has nothing to do with you embracing and shouldering all the responsibility your love mate was designed to handle.

Complementary is a support platform.

Compatibility is the function of common ground.

Godly relationship is when you start from where you are, with what you have as you journey towards the place of getting perfected in Christ Jesus. 

When you are made, give room for others to be made.

Why is balance necessary?

Balance is necessary because God designed it. Every thing God created were created through balance and with balance.

Any thing that is not in balance is out of God’s plan. Balance is God’s nature. It’s a must for balance to exist in any thing his sons and daughter does.

When can balance be experienced?

Balance can be experienced when self or purpose discovery is in place. It’s also possible when your personal relationship with God is balanced. It’s possible when you are gaining maturity and clarity about your identity, priority and vision. It is possible when greed come to an end in your life.

Where can balance be experienced?

Balance can be experienced at difference location or phase in life. It can be experienced in the following…

Friendship
Relationship/dating
Team work.
Ministerial Work.

Balance has difference phase but I want to write on three aspects for now.

GIVING

There must be balance in the place of giving. Both parties must be ready to give their time, attention and strength to the success of the relationship or friendship.

Secondly, the giving must not be one sided. It’s all about giving and receiving – receiving and giving. It must be two side flow. The giving must not be money alone. The giving has to be complimentary and compatible – necessity is what should define the flow.

What are you giving and what is the quality of what you are giving?

FORGIVENESS

No friendship or relationship can survive when forgiveness and reconciliation is absent. You must understand that a successful friendship or relationship is made up of two forgivers.

The forgiveness must not be one sided. You must learn how to apologize and you must also create room for the other person to apologize. Being a man does not mean you won’t admit your fault and apologize. Being a lady does not mean you are too pretty to admit your fault and apologize. Reconciliation must always be the option. Learn how to forgive and learn how to apologize.

COMMUNICATION

No friendship or relationship can survive when communication is absent. Communication is the life, blood, and breathes of any relationship or relationship. Communication must not be one sided in nature. Even if you are reserved person in nature you can’t escape communication.

If you have nothing to share, no idea to share, nothing to discuss about then love is not needed. No communication, no love. Loves comes and grow by effective communication – by effective communication that is two sided. 

Learn how to LISTEN and learn how to TALK.

Balance is a necessity.

This is the will of God for you. 

God bless you.

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