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BALANCE; Escape From Abusive Relationship - Part 1

Amos 3:3. What is balance? Balance is not a level or state. It is a lifestyle of being considerate and a culture of understanding the difference in the lives of individuals. It is not the function of equal strength but the wisdom of complimentary.

Who is Balance?
Balance is the reality of wisdom.

How is balance in Nature?

Balance is of two patterns
Compatibility (Goals, purpose and vision)
Complimentary (Investment)

In compatibility, both parties in friendship or relationship must have a single defined goal, focus, vision or purpose. This is the place where Amos 3:3 becomes a lifestyle. The two must agree willingly without any act of manipulation or domineering attitude from the other party.

In this place, is where terms must be defined, questions must be asked and sincerity must be in place. There is a need for you to observe the following questions;
Who are you?
What do you really want?
Where are you going to in life?
Is your destination defined by God’s will?
Is this what you really need or this is what people and environment factor have designed for you?

In compatibility, two things must come into play. 1. Identity. 2. Priority. You must never abandon your identity just to please any body. You must never abuse your priority to please any body.

It’s a must you recognize how your identity bears witness with your partners identity. Are you at peace with the identity of your self and that of your partner? You must also recognize if your priority is line with your partner’s priority.

DO BOTH PARTIES HAVE COMMON BATTLE?

If your priority and identity do not in any way flow naturally with each other, the relationship or friendship was never meant to be in the first place. You are not expected to make your self compatible but by destiny – things are meant to fall into place naturally. 

Another question you must ask yourself is – who is the author of your identity and priority? Compatibility do not in any way mean both parties will be 100% perfect for each other. What this mean is – both parties have a common ground to agree and walk on. It also means that there is a common platform where both parties can express the attitude of being led by the Spirit of God.

Compatibility is not the absence of imperfection or weakness, deformity of attitude or conflict of ideas. It is the presence of imperfection, weaknesses, deformity of attitude and conflict of ideas with the presence of a defined, agreed goal, aim, focus or vision. 

JESUS loves you so much.

To be continued...
Watch out for part 2

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