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ARE YOU READY FOR PREMARITAL RELATIONSHIP?

In every premarital relationship, one of the clearest signs that you are emotionally and spiritually ready is your ability to take responsibility for your actions. Self-responsibility is not just a sign of maturity; it is proof that you are willing to grow, learn, and protect what matters to you. As a youth preparing for a future in marriage, this is not the time to always look for who to blame or pretend you're always right. This is the time to develop character and humility.

When you constantly shift blame to your partner or become defensive each time correction or misunderstanding arises, you are indirectly saying, “I am not ready for commitment.” Love may bring two people together, but maturity keeps them growing together. A relationship where no one takes responsibility becomes toxic, exhausting, and frustrating. Can you imagine trying to build something meaningful with someone who never admits their wrong? That’s not love. That’s pride in disguise.

Many young people think love is just about feelings, gifts, and communication. But love is more about accountability, especially when you offend your partner. Saying “I’m sorry” does not reduce your worth—it increases your value in the eyes of someone who’s watching your growth. You must ask yourself: Am I the kind of person I would want to be with? Can I admit when I’m wrong and sincerely apologize without making excuses?

As you journey into love and courtship, remind yourself that you’re not perfect—and neither is your partner. Mistakes will happen, but what matters is your willingness to take responsibility and learn from them. Don’t let immaturity ruin something that has the potential to grow into a godly marriage. You’re not just preparing to fall in love; you’re preparing to build in love. And every strong building begins with a responsible foundation.

Prince Victor Matthew 

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