In love and relationship, forgiveness and reconciliation is the major strength. I want to set a balance to this issue of forgiveness because; many people are using scriptures as an excuse for justifying their weaknesses. God spoke about the offender and the offended in the bible. My assignment in this post is to set a balance between the offender and the offended. Please, read carefully! Mr. & Miss. Offended. I know what it hurts and I have also suffered in some percentage the pain of people hurting me. Being offended is not some thing to expect but some times in love and relationship, you will get it from people unexpected. I want you to remember how much God has loved and forgiven you for your mistakes and faults. You need to understand the abundance of the love and the forgiving Grace of the Lord upon your life. This is the first thing I want you to recognize. God loves you and He has forgiven you of any mistake or faults in your life. It’s important you realize that God ...

We live in a society where every people are seeking for security. Security is a great asset to any thing that is worth protecting. Your heart and relationship is not an exemption of this need (security). Lack of security or the uncertainty has increased fear among youths and teenagers. Love and Relationship has now become a world of threat. This is an error that must be corrected.  There is a way to fire prove your heart and relationship and this is what this post is set to reveal to you. The fire in this contest is heartbreak. Heartbreak happens because people don’t know how to fire prove their relationship. Conflicts are the not major cause of heartbreak in relationships. The major cause of heartbreak in relationship is lack of fire prove. They have not set up a security system to preserve their heart and relationship. No body can fire prove your heart and relationship; you are the only one responsible for it. One thing I have realized is this; your inabilities to fire prov...

Heartbreak is not your enemy. Men are not wicked and ladies are not heartless. We suffer daily only because we refuse to sit, think, and learn. In the world of love and relationship, if you don’t learn how to earn your faults and mistakes, you will never escape the world of heartbreak. Heartbreak is the discipline reserved for people who hates to learn and accept correction. The prison is not the problem of law breakers. The major problem of law breakers is their unwillingness to learn from their mistakes, and become a better person. That’s the same situation when it comes to heartbreak.  Heartbreak is one of the most painful but necessary experience needed for youths to become more responsible, and accountable. Experiencing heartbreak does not imply you are immature; you becoming isolated, unforgiving, and bitter after heartbreak means you are immature.  Youths and even teenagers hates heartbreak but that is wrong. If you are not a thief, will you be scared of the p...

God has a plan and a desire for us as individual. His plan is for us to love and be loved in return. Although a lot of people don’t get to enjoy this plan, there is still an opportunity for you to begin to enjoy Gods desire. This post is all about you understanding from Gods perspective on this question “can we date?” Can we Date? Is a question, an invitation a man places before a lady for the purpose of agreement or disapproval for a relationship. Taking Amos 3:3 as the case study, you will agree with me that in every walking, there must be a defined agreement. What makes an agreement sincerely is when the two people involved, agreed willingly without any form of pressure or manipulation. This is Gods concept about a man asking a lady out for a date. Can we date, is a request a man ought to present to any lady he has an interest in. No lady is bond by your request. Love is freedom to choose and the power to say yes or no. The lady has the freedom to say yes or no to any requ...

I was so shocked when the Holy Spirit first whispered this instruction to me. What? Like seriously? Are you joking? But to my surprise, the Holy Spirit gave me an understanding that is a major solution to the frustration among the married people. If you are single and reading this, I am so sure this will help your dating and courtship process. According to the first man (Adam - Genesis 2:24) - God’s instruction was not focused on them becoming married. The major focus of God for them was them becoming “ONE flesh.” This is the misconception among youths. There is nothing wrong with you desiring to be married but there is every thing wrong when, all your investment in the relationship is just to be married. Marriage is not the major goal, marriage or being married ought to be an added bonus and not an achievement. There is some thing that is stronger and of necessity that being married. If you don’t have this and you get married, you will begin to endure the marriage instead of you...

The parable of the ten virgins is our case study; you will agree with me that being perfect or even being a virgin  is not an assurance that your love life or relationship will succeed. In Gods kingdom, there are principles you must learn to embrace and one out of the principles holds the greatest influence; TIME! Every friendship and relationship has a destination. Some friendship and relationships will succeed and some of the friendship or relationships will fail. Failure is predictable and success is predictable. The failure or success in every friendship or relationship is notable in the quality of the discovery and preparation of the individual. Eccl 3:1 states clearly that, there is TIME for every thing and a purpose for every activity under the surface of the earth. TIME plays a big role in the success or failure of the relationship we experience as an individual. Time is like a phase and in every phase (time) there are things you ought to do. This reminds me of a ...

“If you think it, you can have it.” I stand to disagree with this quota. On this ground, I want to write this post to you. It’s so frustrating in the world of relationship because youths and even adults are not actually getting what they desire. Only few people get what they desired and that’s because of a principle I want to share in this post. There is nothing wrong with having good and great desires. As a matter of fact, I want to encourage you to have great desires for a nurturing and successful relationship. But don’t stop there, you must seek to discover and obey the necessary principle required. Desire is not enough; knowledge is needed. It’s so amazing how some people get the result of what they desired and begin to regret because they didn’t know what they were actually desiring. My first question to you is, do you really know your desire? The kind of man or lady you desire to marry, do you actually understand what it means to marry that kind of man or lady? Do you u...

There is time for every thing under the sun and this too implies to the issue of knowledge. Love and relationship will never find balance if knowledge is absent but the truth is this; KNOWLEDGE IS NOT ENOUGH. I have seen people who had so much knowledge yet failed in the same area of what they knew. Knowledge has its own diversities and all of them can be available but not needed. Don’t be too conscious of the desire to gain knowledge so much that you begin to loose, the consciousness of who you are in Christ. There are limits to the kind of knowledge we expose ourselves to because our identity is specific in nature. Wrong knowledge is even more dangerous that ignorance and half knowledge are more frustrating than ignorance. In life, love, and relationship, you must understand that there is wrong knowledge about relationship and there is a right knowledge about relationships. The wrong and the right knowledge look appealing to the eyes and the intellectual capacity. What is the r...

Hosea 4:6 has taught us a good lesson in this kingdom of God. God’s people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. This also imply that people in love, and relationship constantly gain or get heartbreaks because they are lack of the right knowledge. In this world of love and relationship, ignorance is not excuse. Feeling is not enough; knowledge is needed. Its okay to recognize that you are having feelings for some one but you must also seek to knowledge what kind of feelings you are having. It’s so confusing how people know they are having feelings for some one yet they don’t even have a clue to the knowledge and understanding of it. How can you be carried away by your feelings (we all do some times) and forget the place of knowledge. I know it feels good and exciting and this is lady or man feels different from every other people you have met in life. One thing you must understand is this question; what are you looking for in life? What are you looking for? Knowing the answer ...

Using Eccl 3:1 as a case study, you will agree with me that there is a purpose for every activity (love) under the sun. The greatest frustration in life is you being in possession of a thing and yet don’t know or understand its purpose. Whenever I visit social media, I see different adverts for love and relationships but, what many people are not thinking is this; why do I need love and what will I use love to do what I gain love? Love is not a trophy. LOVE IS A WEAPON/TOOL. Yes! Love is a tool and if you don’t understand this concept, you will always get hurt in your love life blaming people, and blaming love without the knowledge that you are the one hurting yourself. Love and relationship is not for lazy people because love is a whole lot of responsibility and work.  The mindset of love as a trophy is what is making ladies to play hard to get before accepting a proposal. Ladies have being taught they are trophy and love is trophy so if there is no chasing, there is no ...