Do not become so fascinated by someone's potential that you ignore their present. Potential can inspire you, but character should convince you. God called Abraham before Abraham saw the complete manifestation of the promise. Yet Abraham had to walk with God through process. Your future spouse should not merely speak about where they want to go. You should be able to observe evidence that they are walking in the right direction. Proverbs 24:27 says, “Prepare thy work without, and make it fit for thyself in the field; and afterwards build thine house.” There is wisdom in preparation before construction. This principle matters in dating. Before building a household, learn how the person handles responsibility. Before discussing marriage, observe how they manage their present life. Before trusting them with your future, examine whether they are faithfully managing what they currently have. Are they developing their gifts? Are they pursuing their assignment? Are they responsible with mo...

There is a person you know publicly, and there is a person God sees privately.  The private person eventually becomes the public person. Your dating decisions should therefore include more than observing how someone treats you when they want something from you. Watch how they behave when nobody important is watching. Watch their relationship with truth. Watch their discipline. Watch their stewardship. Watch how they speak about people who cannot benefit them. Jesus taught that the Father sees what happens in secret. Matthew 6:6 reminds us that God sees beyond public performance. This should change how you discern relationships. Your purpose needs integrity. A gifted person without character can damage the very assignment God gave them. A prophetic gift does not excuse dishonesty. A leadership position does not excuse abuse. Financial success does not excuse pride. Spiritual vocabulary does not automatically produce spiritual maturity. So while dating, do not only ask, “How does thi...

There is a dangerous kind of relationship where one person falls in love with the other person's appearance, personality, body, social status, or usefulness but has little interest in the person's assignment. Do not become someone's admiration while losing your calling. Before dating, understand that God gave you something to steward. “As every man hath received the gift, even so minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.” 1 Peter 4:10. Your gifts are not decorations. Your life is a stewardship. So when someone enters your life, observe what they do with your purpose. Do they respect your convictions? Do they encourage your development? Can they celebrate your progress without becoming threatened? Can they recognize that your assignment belongs first to God? Can you do the same for them? A woman should not have to become less purposeful to make a man feel like a man. A man should not have to abandon his responsibility and assignment to ...

Purpose will eventually expose incompatibility.  Two people can have chemistry and still lack the maturity required to build together. At some point, you will need to discuss boundaries, money, family expectations, sexual purity, ministry, career, children, conflict, responsibilities, and personal weaknesses. If difficult conversations always produce anger, silence, manipulation, threats, or withdrawal, pay attention. Jesus did not avoid difficult conversations. He confronted Peter, corrected His disciples, challenged religious hypocrisy, and spoke truth even when truth was uncomfortable. “Faithful are the wounds of a friend.” Proverbs 27:6. Your assignment in Christ requires you to become a person who can receive correction and communicate truth with love. Dating should expose opportunities for growth rather than become a place where both people constantly protect their egos. Ask yourself, “Can I tell this person that something is wrong without becoming afraid of their reaction?” ...

There is a difference between being constantly contacted and being genuinely connected. Someone can message you throughout the day and still have no meaningful understanding of your life, values, convictions, or assignment. What you should desire is communication that brings clarity, maturity, and mutual understanding. Your purpose requires concentration. If your dating relationship keeps you emotionally distracted, constantly anxious, endlessly checking your phone, or wondering what the other person means, you may need to examine what the relationship is producing in you. “For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace.” 1 Corinthians 14:33. Consider the kind of person you are becoming through this relationship. Are you becoming more disciplined or more distracted? Are you praying more or constantly analyzing messages? Are you becoming more productive in your assignment or spending your days waiting for someone's attention? These questions are not about rejecting romance. Th...

Before you ask whether someone is right for you, ask whether you are becoming the person God created you to be. Your identity must not be negotiated at the altar of romance. You were created in Christ with purpose, gifts, convictions, and an assignment that existed before you met the person you are considering dating. A healthy relationship should give you room to become more honest about who you are in Christ, not pressure you to create a version of yourself that will be easier for someone else to love. Genesis 1:27 reminds us that God created humanity in His image. Your worth therefore did not begin when someone became attracted to you. You do not need a relationship to validate your existence, and you should not surrender your convictions simply to keep someone's affection. Emotional safety becomes important because purpose requires honesty. Can you tell this person what you genuinely believe? Can you admit where you are growing? Can you talk about your fears without pretending ...

- You can be a great father to your children and fail as a husband to your wife. - You can be a great husband to your wife and fail as a father to your children  - You can be a great wife to your husband and fail as a mother to your children.  - You can be a great mother to your children and fail as a wife to your husband.  - You can be a great ministers of God, or business person and fail in your marriage.  THE END GOAL OF ALL THESE IS BE THE BEST IN ALL FACE OF LIFE. Growing up in life you might have experienced one of these below - You either had a loving father but had a mother that doesn't care about you.  - You either had a loving mother but had a father that doesn't care about you.  - You either had an absent father or absent mother or absent parents.  NEVER JUDGE YOUR PARENTS BECAUSE YOU DONT HAVE THE FULL STORY OF WHAT HAPPENED TO THEM... Many parents suffered emotional Trauma and fights beyond their control...children don't have a clue about ...