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Roots of Entitlement in Love

Love loses its fragrance when self replaces service. True love is never about what you can take, but what you can give. Entitlement begins the moment the heart shifts from gratitude to comparison. When we start measuring what others give against what we think we deserve, we lose sight of love’s original design — selfless giving.

In the culture of genuine love, gratitude becomes the soil where joy grows. Gratitude reminds you that no one owes you love; it is a gift, not a right. It keeps your heart soft, humble, and ready to serve. Comparison, on the other hand, feeds pride and breeds discontentment. When we compare, we forget that love is not about equality of gifts but sincerity of heart.

The strength of any relationship lies not in entitlement but in the willingness to serve. Love matures when both hearts are willing to give even when it’s not convenient. Service is not weakness; it is the truest proof of emotional and spiritual maturity.

Remember, true love gives before it demands, and it serves before it seeks to be served. As Scripture says, “Let each esteem others better than himself.” (Philippians 2:3–4). When love is rooted in humility, it bears fruit that never fades.

Prince Victor Matthew 

Hope Expression Values You 

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