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THE CAGE - Part 2

This CAGE operates in different pattern. Here are the following patterns that I know.

THE FEAR OF FAILURE.

Most of the time, this CAGE gets hold of our emotions because we don’t involve God in every detail that surround our emotions. Most of the time, we are afraid of relationship and dating because we have choose to believe what the society, friends and people are saying more than what the word of God has to say.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and don’t depend on your own understanding. Your fears are real but you can turn them into prayer points and you can still ask the Holy Spirit how to go about it.

Always remember this ‘the righteousness shall fall seven times and rise again.’ The greatest danger is not in your ability to fail – the greatest danger is in your inability to learn when you fail. Be led by the Holy Spirit and get instructions from Him and if you fail in the process of obeying God, learn from your mistakes and move again. Dare to believe God. The fear of tomorrow is already dealt with God’s already made plan. You are good enough and you are unique. Listen to what God has to say about you. God’s word is the only thing that can define you.

THE FEAR OF REJECTION 

Your value is not set by what you think neither is it set by what a man or lady thinks or says about you. Your value is set by the Word of God.

You must understand that every body can not be your friend. Every lady you see is not meant for you. Every man you see is not suppose to date you. You are not ordinary. You are unique and blessed. There are specifications attached to the kind of man or lady that must be your friend or date you.

Be at peace with your self when people reject you. It doesn’t mean they are bad people or you are inferior to them. THEY ARE NOT JUST MEANT FOR YOU.

Keep on investing in your self development. Allow God’s word to keep transforming your attitude, manner of approach and mind-set. The Lord will give you destiny helpers who will add value to your life. Rejection is another way God protects you from the negative people that will distract you from your God’s given purpose.

IGNORANCE

This is another CAGE we use our own hands to set. What do you really know about your self? Where are you coming from in life? Where are you now? Where are you going to in life? What’s your priority? What are your values? Who defines your identity? Why are you here on earth? What’s your divine call?

Let’s go a little bit deeper – do you have a clue of what the word of God says about you? Your story is in the bible – have you discovered it? Do you love your self? Do you value your self? Do you respect your self? Where will you be in the next five years coming? Are you emotionally healthy? Are you at peace with your self? Have you forgiven your self? Do you value your time?

You will never enjoy healthy relationship if you are not healthy. What you bring into your relationship is an extension of the joy or the stress that’s inside of you. If you don’t know who you are, you will never know the type of people you ought to relate with. It’s time for you to allow the Holy Spirit to reveal YOU to your self. You need God’s word.

DOUBTS

This is another pattern of your self as the CAGE limiting YOU. You must choose to believe in the Grace of our Lord Jesus Christ at work in you. God’s word about you should be your confidence. Your limitations are not the things you lack – the limitation resides in the things you have and have despised.

Doubting your own ideas, talent, creativity, dreams...etc has a big effect on the relationship that surrounds you. It affects the way you present your self and it affects your confidence.

God believes in you and that’s why He created you and blessed you with all you have and achieved. Stop comparing your self with other people. Stay conscious of your uniqueness and other people will appreciate you.

Treat your self, the way God treats you and other people will treat you the way you treat your self. If you doubt your self, people will do the same. Open your heart to the truth of His word for your life.

You were created to have successful relationship with the people around you – so GET OUT of that CAGE.

This CAGE operates in different pattern. Here are the following patterns that I know.

THE FEAR OF FAILURE.

Most of the time, this CAGE gets hold of our emotions because we don’t involve God in every detail that surround our emotions. Most of the time, we are afraid of relationship and dating because we have choose to believe what the society, friends and people are saying more than what the word of God has to say.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and don’t depend on your own understanding. Your fears are real but you can turn them into prayer points and you can still ask the Holy Spirit how to go about it.

Always remember this ‘the righteousness shall fall seven times and rise again.’ The greatest danger is not in your ability to fail – the greatest danger is in your inability to learn when you fail. Be led by the Holy Spirit and get instructions from Him and if you fail in the process of obeying God, learn from your mistakes and move again. Dare to believe God. The fear of tomorrow is already dealt with God’s already made plan. You are good enough and you are unique. Listen to what God has to say about you. God’s word is the only thing that can define you.

THE FEAR OF REJECTION 

Your value is not set by what you think neither is it set by what a man or lady thinks or says about you. Your value is set by the Word of God.

You must understand that every body can not be your friend. Every lady you see is not meant for you. Every man you see is not suppose to date you. You are not ordinary. You are unique and blessed. There are specifications attached to the kind of man or lady that must be your friend or date you.

Be at peace with your self when people reject you. It doesn’t mean they are bad people or you are inferior to them. THEY ARE NOT JUST MEANT FOR YOU.

Keep on investing in your self development. Allow God’s word to keep transforming your attitude, manner of approach and mind-set. The Lord will give you destiny helpers who will add value to your life. Rejection is another way God protects you from the negative people that will distract you from your God’s given purpose.

IGNORANCE

This is another CAGE we use our own hands to set. What do you really know about your self? Where are you coming from in life? Where are you now? Where are you going to in life? What’s your priority? What are your values? Who defines your identity? Why are you here on earth? What’s your divine call?

Let’s go a little bit deeper – do you have a clue of what the word of God says about you? Your story is in the bible – have you discovered it? Do you love your self? Do you value your self? Do you respect your self? Where will you be in the next five years coming? Are you emotionally healthy? Are you at peace with your self? Have you forgiven your self? Do you value your time?

You will never enjoy healthy relationship if you are not healthy. What you bring into your relationship is an extension of the joy or the stress that’s inside of you. If you don’t know who you are, you will never know the type of people you ought to relate with. It’s time for you to allow the Holy Spirit to reveal YOU to your self. You need God’s word.

DOUBTS

This is another pattern of your self as the CAGE limiting YOU. You must choose to believe in the Grace of our Lord Jesus Christ at work in you. God’s word about you should be your confidence. Your limitations are not the things you lack – the limitation resides in the things you have and have despised.

Doubting your own ideas, talent, creativity, dreams...etc has a big effect on the relationship that surrounds you. It affects the way you present your self and it affects your confidence.

God believes in you and that’s why He created you and blessed you with all you have and achieved. Stop comparing your self with other people. Stay conscious of your uniqueness and other people will appreciate you.

Treat your self, the way God treats you and other people will treat you the way you treat your self. If you doubt your self, people will do the same. Open your heart to the truth of His word for your life.
You were created to have successful relationship with the people around you – so GET OUT of that CAGE.

You must unlearn all the things that is not in line with Gods word.

You must learn to believe in love, relationship, and friendship in God’s Concept and Pattern.

Don’t trust your past experiences above the word of God.

All the fears, worries, and doubt are TRUE but God’s word is THE TRUTH.

You need to believe again through God’s pattern.

You need to trust again through God’s pattern.

You need to love again through God’s pattern.

YOU MUST BE LED by the Holy Spirit in ALL THINGS.

Embrace your personal relationship with the Holy Spirit.

Forgive your self, and forgive the people around you.

Accept your self the way you are and look up to God to make you whole.You must unlearn all the things that is not in line with Gods word.

You must learn to believe in love, relationship, and friendship in God’s Concept and Pattern.

Don’t trust your past experiences above the word of God.

All the fears, worries, and doubt are TRUE but God’s word is THE TRUTH.

You need to believe again through God’s pattern.

You need to trust again through God’s pattern.

You need to love again through God’s pattern.

YOU MUST BE LED by the Holy Spirit in ALL THINGS.

Embrace your personal relationship with the Holy Spirit.

Forgive your self, and forgive the people around you.

Accept your self the way you are and look up to God to make you whole.

Shalom!

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